Friday, June 29, 2012

The Rewards of Virginity

In today's western societies, virginity is not a greatly-prized virtue.  The sluts get all the attention, while virgins are actively shamed. 

Even after marriage, when I am no longer a virgin, women tell me that I should have slept around before marriage.  How can I know I'm having good sex if I haven't had it with numerous other men?!  The fact that I'm enjoying it and having frequent orgasms isn't enough - according to them, I need to have experience with other men to really be able to tell if I'm having a good time with my husband in bed.  As ridiculous as it may sound, this is the message being drummed into women and girls: if you don't ride the cock carousel in your teens and twenties, you won't be able to truly tell if you are having sexual pleasure for the rest of your life. 

Slutty women are unlikely to start suddenly praising virginity, as it makes them look worse by comparison.  With the vast numbers of sluts in the US, this means most women are not going to come out in favor of girls saving themselves for marriage, or at least engagement.  Therefore, if men would prefer to marry virgins, they will need to be the ones to reward virginity.

When was the last time you heard a man bragging that his wife was a virgin the first time he had her?  Never, I'll bet.  Yet, men boast all the time about the whores they've been with.  It's time for men who marry virgins to brag as loudly as the ones who bang sluts.  There should be no doubt in anyone's mind, least of all his wife's, that he is proud to have been the one to deflower her, as well as the only man to have had her since.

It's not a bad idea for the rewards to be tangible as well.  I once met a Muslim woman who told me that in her culture a man is very pleased if his wife is a virgin on their wedding night.  He will usually give her expensive jewelry to show his approval and appreciation.  Having a piece of jewelry to wear as a reminder of this is both an encouragement to other girls and women not to give their virginity away to men who don't commit to them and also an incentive for the wife to remain faithful to her husband.  After all, if he valued her virginity so highly, he will likely value her marital faithfulness as well.

Or we could just go back to displaying the bloody sheet as proof of the bride's innocence on the wedding night.  Now there’s a way to make feminists die of sudden heart failure.

9 comments:

  1. This is a great post and very true. The best way to start a fruitful marriage is for both spouces to be virgins.

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  2. Yes, I think that's ideal as well. Of course, it's a little harder to tell if the man is actually a virgin or just not very experienced.

    BTW, I wonder if the hymen's actual purpose is to prevent foreign particles from entering a baby or little girl's vagina. That would be particularly important while the child is in diapers. The hymen starts to slowly disappear as she gets older, which would seem to indicate its main function lies in childhood.

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  3. The hymen starts to slowly disappear as she gets older, which would seem to indicate its main function lies in childhood.
    Then why does virginity testing exist, and they don't do it on kids?

    Or we could just go back to displaying the bloody sheet as proof of the bride's innocence on the wedding night.
    That doesn't work anymore, there are made in China fake hymens which are essentially blood-filled membranes.
    If she don't allow you to inspect the vajayjay, she got something to hide in them private parts.

    Men should get the woman they plan to marry, tested by at least 2 gynaecologists (yes, virginity testing is not some barbaric, primitive tradition - nor is it elusive or illegal when both parties (the future husband and the future wife) agree to it. ). It is something to be formally recognised in these immoral times.

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  4. P Ray, proof of virginity may be the secondary purpose of the hymen, not the primary, is all I was saying. Obviously, the presence of a hymen in virgins has been actively selected for throughout human history and likely prehistory too.

    But why was it there in the first place? I don't believe a Supreme Being put it there for the sole purpose of proving a woman or girl is untouched. If you've ever changed a baby girl's poopy diaper and wondered how she doesn't get a disgusting infection from fecal matter entering the vagina, the hymen is probably your answer. There would be an evolutionary advantage in having a membrane that prevents that kind of contamination.

    My guess would be that once the adaptation became common, men discovered that it was a great way to tell if a girl was a virgin. Please keep in mind that I don't have a degree in this stuff, and I haven't seen any scientific studies to back up my hypothesis. It just makes sense to me, based on my diapering experiences.

    BTW, if you're going to get a woman examined for virginity, you'd better make sure you pick and pay the doctor. You don't want her to get a sympathy confirmation of virginity if it's a fake cherry.

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  5. you'd better make sure you pick and pay the doctor.
    Pick and pay the doctors, you mean.
    Second opinions count for much more.
    And a woman willing to go through the examination twice ... thinks your requirements are both sensible and worth living up to.

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  6. "Of course, it's a little harder to tell if the man is actually a virgin or just not very experienced."

    What does that even mean?

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    1. Um....that men can have done it a few times before but still be crap in bed.

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  7. Here's a tragic tale for you: I dated a virgin (high-IQ, educated, married parents, beautiful) last year, and fell madly in love with her. I was strongly considering her as wife material. But as soon as I went through a rough patch at work - got a bit down, wasn't my normal Alpha self - she dumped me to go play with strangers at Burning Man. I still have a hole in my heart.

    From virgin to hypergamous hamster. A lot of these seemingly-virtuous girls are not - or at least, they're far too prone to accept the 'well meaning' advice of their friends. At least she won't be able to trick the next guy with the v-card.

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  8. Aurini, are you sure she was a virgin? It sounds a little fishy to me, like maybe she was putting on the virgin act because she saw you as a good provider, then dumped you when your provider status looked to be in danger. If you had become engaged, she may have come up with a sob story about a childhood accident destroying her proof of virginity.

    I know it may not feel like it now, but you were lucky to have found out what she was really like before marrying her. My condolences on your broken heart though. I hope you find a better girl next time, as you sound like a decent guy.

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